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Pet peeve: Howdy!

Okay, so I am all for a thin veneer of give-a-damn painted over absolute apathy when it comes to greeting co-workers, people on the street, and random strangers I make eye contact with in an elevator. I get that we're not buds and we're both looking to be courteous, but not actually friendly.


"How are you?" is a question. It connotes an answer. If you ask me how I am, I will tell you. If I ask how you are, I'm interested in your answer and plan on waiting to hear your reply.

"How are you?" is not the same thing as hello, hi, howdy, hey, yo, or various other greetings that are simple acknowledgements of someone's presence. If you want to greet me, but not ask how I'm doing, use one of those. If you don't want to know how I am, don't ask.

Don't say "how are you" while passing me in the hallways at breakneck speed. It's fucking rude.


Anonymous said...

I agree. I get cranky at my office due to folks who won't even ask "how are you?", or smile or anything. I smile at them every day and they scowl back. It takes all the reserve I have not to say "what is your problem anyway?"!

Tari said...

I don't mind non-greeters so much (although a nod or smile or some basic acknowledgement of another human being is always kinda nice), it's the ones who ask a question that they clearly don't care to hear an answer to. I'd *prefer* they didn't say anything than fake giving a damn.